Although it may not seem like it, they also want to pass the ball!
My son RSC playing flag football-boys vs girls. (Photo credit: Brooke Seymour)
Last weekend, I went to watch my son play his first flag football game. It was a fun and lively experience — especially because it was boys vs. girls.
They competed. They laughed. They gave it their all. And the most beautiful part: they admired each other.
After the game, I asked my son how he felt playing against girls — and whether he felt bad when they scored.
He replied, with a kind of wisdom that caught me off guard:
“Feel bad? Not at all! It was SO fun. Boys and girls have different skills, and both teams played really well. Having fun is what matters most.”
And that got me thinking…
🌍 What if life could be more like that?
In my work as a Coach, I’ve noticed something interesting: More and more men are wanting to “let go of the ball” — and share it.
Actually, these days I’m working with more male clients than female.
Many of them tell me things like:
👉 “I want to be more present with my family.”
👉 “I want to stop being a workaholic.”
👉 “I want to feel free.”
👉 “I want to relax and let go of control.”
👉 “I want to disconnect from work — on weekends and on vacation.”
These are strong, successful, admirable men. But they’re tired. Tired of carrying so much on their own. Tired of always performing. Tired of sacrificing themselves in silence.
🏃♀️ And among the women I coach, the feeling is that they are running a silent marathon
✅ They work more than they want to.
✅ They feel guilty for not giving 100% in every area.
✅ They rarely rest — even sleep isn’t enough.
✅ They feel disconnected, even when everything “looks fine.”
✅ They know something has to change… but don’t know how.
✅ Their schedules are full, but their hearts are running on empty.
It’s like while many men are starting to slow down, many women still feel like they’re not allowed to.
🔄 So what’s going on?
We’re living through a shift. The old models of success don’t work anymore. And the new ones? They’re still being written.
For generations, men were taught to provide at all costs. Now, many are realizing: “There has to be more to life than this.”
Women — after pushing so hard to claim space — often feel like they still have to prove themselves by doing everything, all the time, “perfectly.”
We talk a lot about humanizing artificial intelligence.
Perhaps the time has come to ask ourselves more consciously:
What if we start by humanizing ourselves?
🧠 We are not machines.
We’re not meant to operate at full speed, forever. We are emotional, physical, creative, connected human beings. And when something’s not working in one area of our lives, it spills into everything else.
Pretending everything is fine only pushes us further from what really matters.
So… what if we stopped running solo and started playing as a team?
💬 What if men could let go — without shame?
💤 What if women could rest — without guilt?
🤝 What if we supported each other more?
🎯 What if we complemented each other — instead of competing or overcompensating?
💓 What if we stopped pretending and started being… human again?
Maybe if we learn to pass the ball — at home, at work, in life — we’ll start living more fully, more freely, and more connected.
What would happen if we stopped carrying everything alone…
and started sharing the load — as teammates, partners, humans?
🌱 If this resonates, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Or maybe this is your reminder to pause. To check in with yourself. To ask: What do I need to let go of?
And if you’re ready to explore a new way of living — I’m here.
